parents buying the beer
we're back to the subject of teenage drinking.
i heard today about a situation where a couple of college freshman girls went home for the weekend and had a party. they had alcohol there and it was purchased and condoned by the parents. their reasoning was that they knew that if the girls weren't there at one of the homes with alcohol available to them and their friends, then they would be out at a party where there would be alcohol. the parents didn't want their daughters to be part of that scene and possibly get into some kind of trouble.
to be honest, i do have mixed emotions on this. i can understand how the parents might feel and the steps they think is reasonable to keep their girls out of trouble. i can personally say that once your child goes off to college there's this feeling that they are no longer children, but adults. there is also the knowledge that they now have the freedom to do with their life as they please.
even though they do now have more responsibilities equivalent to adults, they are not adults. and they definitely are under the age lawful to drink alcohol. and to me, that's the bottom line. i don't know how i would keep my child from going out to drink, but i wouldn't make it available to my child and therefore, condoning their drinking. there's also the issue of the friends being allowed to drink and what their parents might think about that.
one more thought... i've heard of these situations where the kids are in high school, as opposed to college. with the parents whose child is in college, i have some empathy. but if the kid is in high school... what is the parent(s) thinking?! i would have to say that you have not taken your responsibility as a parent seriously... and you have hurt your child in the process.
i heard today about a situation where a couple of college freshman girls went home for the weekend and had a party. they had alcohol there and it was purchased and condoned by the parents. their reasoning was that they knew that if the girls weren't there at one of the homes with alcohol available to them and their friends, then they would be out at a party where there would be alcohol. the parents didn't want their daughters to be part of that scene and possibly get into some kind of trouble.
to be honest, i do have mixed emotions on this. i can understand how the parents might feel and the steps they think is reasonable to keep their girls out of trouble. i can personally say that once your child goes off to college there's this feeling that they are no longer children, but adults. there is also the knowledge that they now have the freedom to do with their life as they please.
even though they do now have more responsibilities equivalent to adults, they are not adults. and they definitely are under the age lawful to drink alcohol. and to me, that's the bottom line. i don't know how i would keep my child from going out to drink, but i wouldn't make it available to my child and therefore, condoning their drinking. there's also the issue of the friends being allowed to drink and what their parents might think about that.
one more thought... i've heard of these situations where the kids are in high school, as opposed to college. with the parents whose child is in college, i have some empathy. but if the kid is in high school... what is the parent(s) thinking?! i would have to say that you have not taken your responsibility as a parent seriously... and you have hurt your child in the process.
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